Unless it was told from an anthropological point of view, I have always found history dull. I got through college without taking a history class. I filled the requirement with poetry, I think. I am understanding more and more why I have always felt this way about history. I have come to find my own history irrelevant. As I took responsibility for my role in the co-creation of it, I have been able to do more than let it go. I have become nonstick, so it doesn’t influence me, and I am creating an amazing life full of love and abundance at quantum speed!
I could start my story with a line like “My parents, (especially my mother) my youth choir director, and my coaches were often flat out mean to me, even to the point of wishing me dead. I could detail how I was raised to be a
“good Christian” doormat, how I was always told that my point of view was not true, and how I wanted to kill myself by shooting myself in the heart every day from the time I was about eight years old until I was 41. But it is far more inspiring to start the story from the point when the momentum shifted; When in one magic moment that feeling of self-destructiveness entirely disappeared. I don’t want to be drug into your sad story. I want to stand with you in joy. I won’t drag you down with me.
I created my own reality with all of these events. I take responsibility for eliciting all the terrible things people said and did to me. I believe I attracted it because I was vibrating worthlessness. Here are some ways that our focus on histories keeps us from solving our problems
- Getting stuck in your story keeps you addicted to being right and keeps you from seeing what else is true. There is a whole science behind this, but you don’t need to know the details of it. What you do need to do is always ask “What else is true?” It could include that the person that drives you insane at work was sexually abused as a child and is stuck in their own story. It could include that the voice in your head telling you something isn’t right about a situation really is your Indian Princess spirit guide having a temper tantrum to get your attention and give you some insight! There are lots of things in between this two points. There are always many truths.
- History keeps us from focusing on the present and manifesting our desires. Instead of yes, BUT this happened… say “yes AND I have the power to transform it all from this point forward.
- Take off the damn post it notes. Our DNA gets tagged with the traumas of our ancestors. These tags have been described as post-it-notes. If you had a post-it note about a meeting that happened last week, you would crumple it up and throw it away. You wouldn’t hesitate to burn it. In workshops, I have people write their limiting beliefs on sticky notes and wear them. Then I walk around with a trash can to collect them. Inevitably, a few people will not throw them away.
- History keeps us from creating new solutions. Steve Jobs, well-known to meditate, did not think about what existed to get inspiration for the iPhone. His meditation time gave him space for completely new ideas. Do something that clears your head, whether it be meditating in stillness or in movement.
- History keeps us from feeling. Martha Beck, in her book Finding Your Way in a Wild New World, states that the verbal parts of our brain process information at 40,000 bits per second, whereas the nonverbal parts of our brain process at 11,000,000 bits per second. You get a lot more information by feeling rather than thinking. Native Americans are known to “think” with their hearts rather than their heads. HeartMath is an evidence-based modern-day embodiment of this concept. We are inherently feeling beings with some thinking skills.
- Wouldn’t it feel better to hear how my self-destructive switch got turned off than about the decades of events that kept it on? It’s really a much more interesting story and when I tell it, you will feel amazing, too. If we focused on our successes over our failures, the resulting momentum of love would change the world in a heartbeat.
I also take responsibility for falling back in love with myself, and I make it a point to do so EVERY DAY. The first line of my story would read something like this: I now relish my problems with the same delectability, lusciousness, and luxuriousness, as I relish the solutions. There is no longer any negativity in my life.
What is the first line of your story?