I want #metoo to come from the men who overstepped boundaries and I want women to create a safe space for their confessions.
Safe does not mean comfortable.
Safe means we take it into a divine feminine paradigm, not run the patriarchal model with women.
Safe doesn’t mean women stay quiet. No one can empathize with us if they don’t know how we feel. Safe means we have a meaningful conversation.
Jail, slavery, and religion are all patriarchal structures that take away power. They give orders, they argue the dichotomy while ignoring everything in between, they squash feelings and co-creation.
I don’t want men to be my slaves, inmates, worshippers or idolizers.
I want men to be my co-creators. I want men to help give everyone power.
Safe means that when prison is my first thought when someone violates boundaries, I look at where I have imprisoned myself for the convenience of others.
Safe means we ask the men what happened to them to blind them from the things that matter to us.
Safe means we ask ourselves if we unwittingly did that to them.
Safe means we step out of our victim mentality and don’t give them the power to be our wound.
Safe means that they take responsibility for their actions.
Safe means where they learn a new pattern.
Safe means we teach them differently; We teach them crying is beneficial and feelings are their compass; We teach them about intuition, magic, and creation.
Safe means we mother differently.
Safe means we separate the value of fatherhood from the crimes of the patriarchy.
Safe means we embrace each other’s imperfections as we strive to do better and lovingly call each other out on them.
Safe means we take away their external expectations to be something incongruent with their souls.
Safe means that they look inside themselves and find their true power so they don’t feel the need to take away someone else’s.
Safe means we expand our view of God from one that wants worship to one that wants mutual respect and partnership
Safe means we expand our view of God from male to both male and female
Safe means we expand our view of ourselves from male or female to both.
Safe means we all overcome our addiction to being right.
What does a safe space mean to you?
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